Question by bonbon: Need some advice on relationships and how to make it work…please read.?
Last weekend after my company party, Joe got really insecure for some reason? Afterwards, we drove
to Peter’s house to hang out and Joe had been drinking. He started to ask me questions about “what you’re gonna
do when you finish school…” “where will we be at?” …”what’s our future gonna be like?”, “Will I continue for
more school..” He claims he forgot any of this every happened and he didn’t remember half the things that
happend this evening by the way! He just started getting really aggressive and really mean to me and started
shouting that: “When you finish school, you’re gonna leave me!”.. “Why don’t you CONTINE to go to school!”..
“I know you’re gonna leave me here cause I have nothing to offer you!” Blah..blah.. Just a bunch of nonsense.
Joe’s arguement was that, “I don’t listen to him… I only wanna do things my way… I’m too narrow minded…” but
he really didn’t have a reason to pick a fight with me.
Honestly? I remained really calm. If anything, all I said to him was that he’s crazy.
I was in the driver’s seat and then all of a sudden????? Joe decides to lean over and BITE me on my face really hard!!!!!!!
I was really shocked! I didn’t scream or shout. I was completely in SHOCK and just sat there
and tried to fathom the moment. I think he got angry again – because I didn’t give him a reaction – and soooo~!!!!
He decides to take my right hand and BITE it even HARDER!!!!!!!!!!! This time! I screamed because it hurt!
I continued to drive to Peter’s house.
We get to Peter’s house, Joe walks in like nothing ever happened, and he sits down and drinks and plays cards
with the guys like usual while I sit at the table with Maxi.
After a while Joe decides he wants to go home now and comes over and to tell me to go. Since I was
still in the middle of telling Maxi what just happend, I told him NO.
He squeezed my knee really hard and told me he wanted to leave.
So he reached into my pocket and snatches car keys and ran out the door. I went after him and now we’re arguing outside. Joe still can’t comprehend that I’m upset
he bit me a couple times? (What full grown adult bites another one? It’s silly and so immature.) Now, Joe’s in the driver’s seat, he starts driving like a mad man down the street with MY CAR!!! and
this is down White Bear Ave where it’s busy! While I was in the car, I called up Kila to come pick me up.
cause Joe’s driving all crazy and I just wanted to remove myself from the situation because I don’t know
what JOe could be capable of.
He pulled my hair a few times cause I was leaning as far as I could to the window on
my side and he took my phone from me.
We came to a stop on the road so I got out of the car and ran to the gas station to wait for Kila.
Joe came chasing after me in my car cause I ran to the gas station to wait for my brother. When Joe got to me, he
picked me up in a lock and tried to “put me in the car” and I wouldn’t go with him so the civilian
came over and threated Joe to put me down or else.. and STUPID ME – I don’t want Joe to get a frign’
domestic vio or disorderly conduct – so I told that “meka” guy to just mind his own business and got into the
driver’s seat. Now – Joe gets into the driver’s side and with his window rolled down, SCREAMS at the top
of his lungs and punches my passenger side dashboard over and over and over and over like he’s totally losing it now.
Embaressing as it is – I couldn’t shut my windows cause he still had my keys and the car parked next to us
can see him clearly and hear him. They went inside the gas station and told the cop on duty.
He comes out and shines the light on us and asks if I’m oky and if I need any help. I remained really calm – and ANOTHER-
stupid moment – I tell him “I’m okay.” When really, I’m not. Of course, I’m thinking of Joe’s well being when I shouldn’t.
and so since Joe was still in tears and I wasn’t, he figured I was fine and left.
Pingsue and Maxi arrived by now and she knew we were fighting so she made Pingsue come find us cause she
was worried and she was right next to me when Joe took my keys from me.
They get to us and Joe’s telling Pingsue that I never listen to him.. all he tried to do was tell me to continue school..
and that I’m not listening to him. There was no rhyme or reason for him to dispute with me to Pingsue.
Kila finally arrives and Joe’s sitting there telling Kila the same thing. I’ve had it. I step out of my own car and sit in Pingsue;s
car for a while with Maxi and let Kila and PS talk to him and after a good 30 mins or so, I told Kila
to take Joe home cause I was tired. So, that was that.
The whole point here is that I didn’t do anythign to provoke Joe nor did I argue with him about making him
feel insecure about me finishing up school. I never said anything about leaving him here w
Answer by Katie C
So, let me get this right. Your bf got drunk, assaulted you, stole your car, drove drunk, assaulted you again and again and again and now says that he can’t remember it so you should get over it. He could have killed you. He could have killed someone else.
Sweetie – I don’t know what your specific question is but you need to talk to someone larger than Yahoo. You should call a Domestic Violence hotline in your area and talk to a professional there. They may be able to put everything into perspective for you.
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